Day Seven: 4 Turn-Offs

i. "Hey, you're hot"

That. Is. An. Insult. I hate it when you call me something that only needs you to glance at me to determine if it's true. What happened to relationship? What happened to getting to know me? There are a thousand different shades of brown clashing and intertwining in my eyes; you can't just label them "brown". Likewise, I'm not as simple as one word; I'm a million different things... If you won't bother taking the time to find out, well, that's just too bad. I'm not going to fall for an insult in disguise.

ii. "You must like this, you're a girl"

Um, no. What I actually enjoy is running and swimming and scary movies, just like you. I also like reading and painting and drawing, but that doesn't mean I'm going to stick with the "girl" stuff. Unfortunately, you'll have to figure out what I like and dislike. (I'm okay with you making mistakes). But if you don't even try-- Goodbye.

iii. "I'm sorry, but I can't help myself"

There are no excuses for being inappropriate. Now that that's clear, I'd really like it if you listened to and adhered to any boundaries I set, okay? There is nothing saying we have to be idiots in order to have a good time together.

iv. "I'm too tough for that"

You might laugh, but I've heard that one before. No, you are not. Crying is okay, hanging out with little kids (and having a blast) is okay, and talking about what's bothering you is okay. Girls aren't the only ones who need to vent, and you know that perfectly well. I'd like to be there for you, too. this gender-role thing really wears both of us out, and you know it.